Words to Say to Your Kids to Encourage and Love Them
Speaking positive, encouraging words to your kids can have a profound effect on their lives.
Encouraging words can give your children confidence and security. Knowing they are loved, supported and believed in by their parent can give them so much courage to overcome life’s challenges, while helping them to learn to believe in themselves.
It’s so easy to find ourselves only saying negative, discouraging things to our kids, sometimes we need an extra push to be able to speak positively to our kids. This is an important part of Gentle Parenting.
And before you start, remember that oftentimes the best type of praise for kids is observational praise. You want your encouragement to be sincere, while also allowing your child to see the good they have inside of them instead of relying on you for constant validation. But you can read more about that here.
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Here are 52 encouraging words for kids
- I love you
- I believe in you
- You can do anything you set your mind to
- You’ve worked really hard on this project
- You handled that really well
- Never be afraid to be yourself
- I will always be here for you
- You can always tell me the truth
- It’s ok to fail
- I am listening
- You are so strong
- You are so helpful
- It was a good idea to ask me for help
- You are a good friend
- You are a good brother/sister
- You make me laugh
- That was very kind of you
- You were really brave when that happened
- Thank you
- I’m sorry
- Your choices matter
- That’s a good question
- That’s a great idea
- That sounds really hard
- How do you feel?
- What do you think?
- Learning takes time
- Challenges make us stronger
- Always try your hardest
- You are important
- Trust your gut
- That was a really good decision
- You can change the world
- Your smile brightens my day
- It’s good to keep trying
- . That’s a great attitude to have about this
- Always remember to rest
- I’ll always be here if you need help
- You solved that problem so well
- It’s ok to feel __[emotion]__
- You are so gentle
- You have such a loving heart
- You’re a great leader
- You don’t always have to win
- No one is perfect
- Your words have power
- I love you no matter what
- I have so much fun with you
- I love it when you’re honest with me
- You can change the world
- You make the world a better place
- The important part is that you tried your hardest
Different types of encouraging words
In this list of encouraging words for kids there have been 5 main categories, and if you understand these categories (and their importance) it will be natural to speak encouraging words to your kids all the time.
- Supporting what your child has already done (ex. “That was a really good decision”)
- Reminding them they’re loved and not alone (ex. “I believe in you”)
- Validating feelings (ex. “How do you feel?”)
- Facing challenges (ex. “Learning takes time”)
- Reminding them they’re valuable to this world (ex. “You can change the world”)
Let’s break these down further for a deeper understanding.
Supporting what your child has already done
By giving positive reinforcement for something your child has already done, such as helping a friend, cleaning up etc. it will encourage them to repeat that behaviour again in the future. This is also a good way to point out the specifics of something good they’ve done, rather than a generic, “Good job.”
Example: “That was a really good decision”
Reminding them they’re loved and not alone
When you remind your child that you love them and they are not alone it helps them to feel more secure and attached. This can give them more confidence when they try new or difficult things because they know they have your love and support going forward with them.
Example: “I believe in you”
Many of the encouraging words for kids include validating their feelings, which is an important part of Gentle Parenting. Feelings are an important part of who we are and it’s super important that kids know they’re allowed to have and (appropriately) express their feelings. It’s ok for them to feel sad, angry, scared, embarrassed, etc.
Example: “How do you feel?”
Everyone needs encouraging words when they’re facing a challenge! Whether it’s a test coming up or dealing with something embarrassing that happened at school, it’s really important for kids to believe in themselves that they can face and overcome any challenge.
Example: “Learning takes time”
Reminding them they’re valuable to this world
You should always find ways to remind your child that they are valuable and important in this world. They are little world changers, and it’s important for them to realize their place in a community and the contributions they make to it.
Example: “You can change the world”
Encourage your kids everyday
Starting today, try to make a point to speak encouraging words over your kid’s life every single day. Remind them of how much they’re loved and why they are valuable in this world.
You can use the list of encouraging words for kids to get you started, or think of the categories listed above and focus on those areas.
Encouraging words have a profound effect on how children see themselves and their self worth. They care a lot about what we think and our words have great power over them, so make sure to use those words strategically to lift them up.